Alternative to high-conflict child custody disputes in Virginia

When parents divorce, the effects of the divorce can harm the children. This is especially true if the divorce is a high-conflict divorce. Because of that fact, some people are turning to conscious co-parenting as the child custody model. While the model is good in theory and sometimes in practice, it isn't appropriate for all child custody cases. In some cases, pushing for co-parenting can make matters worse.

One instance in which conscious co-parenting may not be appropriate is if one party in the divorce is a high-conflict person because the other person may end up being a doormat. In some cases, a high-conflict parent will thrive on drama. He or she might not be able to separate their own needs from the needs of the children, which can lead to the children being hurt as the high-conflict parent tries to harm the other parent. This type of situation often leads to the children being actively parented by only one parent, while the other parent causes drama.

For people who are dealing with conscious co-parenting challenges, such as a high-conflict parent or a parent with mental health issues, parallel parenting might be a feasible option. While this model does mean the children have to cope with different parenting styles, it is often easier for them than having to deal with constant conflicts that might arise because of the conscious co-parenting model.

Anyone who is dealing with high-conflict child custody disputes must make sure to put the needs of the children before their own. Understanding the pros and cons of various child custody agreements commonly used in Virginia might help you to make a decision about which one is best for your children. No one is exempt from the possibility of child custody cases, even celebrities. Our law firm provides legal counsel regarding family law matters in northern Virginia. This includes child custody and visitation, custody enforcement, and a number of other areas. Contact one of our family law attorneys today for assistance.

Source:  Huffington Post, "Not Everyone Should Try to Consciously Co-Parent. Here's Why." Virginia Gilbert, Apr. 08, 2014